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Lung cancer stage 4: Anyone's spouse refuse to help themselves?
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Denise,
I'm sorry that things are not going well for your husband. His losing weight and throwing up food is concerning. When I said my husband almost died from Keytruda it was because he got pancreatitis which is a side effect of Keytruda. You might want to do research on all of the medications your husband is taking and the treatments such as chemotherapy that he's had to see what the side effects are that may be affecting his physical condition. The Mayo Clinic website is very good for this sort of thing. I used it all the time for my husband. I don't blame your husband for not wanting to get an MRI. That's an awful ordeal to go through. Especially when you are not feeling well.
Do try and get him to drink more water. However, let him have his coffee and cigarettes even though they aren't the best for him. They are probably two of the few pleasures he still has left in life. Don't criticize him for wanting his cigarettes and coffee. Just tell him how much you love him and hug and kiss him a lot. He needs that. Also tell him that you will always be there for him. I told my husband that and it helped him a lot. Your mind plays tricks on you when you are so ill. At one point my husband thought I was going to leave and never come back. I assured him that would never happen and told him how much I loved him and hugged and kissed him a lot.
Keep praying with him. If your husband doesn't want to pray then just hold his hand while you pray with him. God is really all we've ever had in this life and he's all we need. He decides when you are going to die. Doctors as good as they are don't make that decision. Also if your husband does die, he will be up in Heaven with God and Jesus and all the angels and out of his pain and fear; just like my husband was. I hope that doesn't happen with your husband anytime soon. But if it does, you know that you will eventually join your husband in heaven and will be together again. That is what keeps me going day to day. I know sometime in the future I will join my husband up in Heaven when God decides it's my time.
Denise, I wish you and your husband the best and I will keep praying for both of you.
PML
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Thank you for your kind words and concern. This morning, my husband told me that he has decided not to go through any more chemoimmunotherapy treatments. He has only had about 4 good days since starting the treatments. He has no appetite and just is suffering so much that he just wants it to end. I called the oncology nurse this morning and am waiting for a call back. The oncologist had told him at the beginning, that without treatment he may have 6 months. With treatment, 2 years. But only God knows. One of my biggest fears is that he does not know Jesus. He believes in God, but he does not believe that Jesus performed miracles or that he was born of a virgin. I have tried talking about this with him, but he just gets angry and tells me that I am crazy if I believe all that stuff in the bible. I asked him if he wanted my pastor to come talk to him and he said NO. I might have her come anyhow. Thinking about him going to hell (which he also does not believe in) scares me more than anything. I am not a model christian but I do believe that Jesus is my personal savior although I probably have given him some gray hairs. lol I am a believer. I need to get ready to go to the store before the visiting nurse gets here. Thanks again and take care of yourself.