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Lung cancer stage 4: Anyone's spouse refuse to help themselves?
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Sorry for taking so long to respond. Thank you for your kind response. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. That had to be so hard on you. but he knew you loved him and you knew how much he loved you and that surely helps. Yes, sometimes you have to wonder if all the medical treatments for cancer are helping or making things worse. I realize the doctors are doing their best to help but each person responds differently to the treatments. I don't believe it is a one size fits all kind of treatment. I do have faith in my husbands oncologist, but with him not eating and still losing weight (he is 92 pounds) as of last week, I just don't know what to think. Something is happening that causes him to throw up when he eats. It is not food, it is more like phlegm. So then he is afraid to eat. I don't know how he keeps going with as weak as he is. I am thinking that he may end up in the hospital soon. He just can't keep going like this. He is scheduled for a brain mri on thursday, but if he is not feeling well, he already said that he won't go. I understand that. This brain mri had been scheduled in November. when we got there, they told us that we would have to wait an hour and a half. My husband refused to wait. Here we are in January and it hasn't been done yet. Well, one day at a time. Your prayers are appreciated Thank you.
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Denise,
I'm sorry that things are not going well for your husband. His losing weight and throwing up food is concerning. When I said my husband almost died from Keytruda it was because he got pancreatitis which is a side effect of Keytruda. You might want to do research on all of the medications your husband is taking and the treatments such as chemotherapy that he's had to see what the side effects are that may be affecting his physical condition. The Mayo Clinic website is very good for this sort of thing. I used it all the time for my husband. I don't blame your husband for not wanting to get an MRI. That's an awful ordeal to go through. Especially when you are not feeling well.
Do try and get him to drink more water. However, let him have his coffee and cigarettes even though they aren't the best for him. They are probably two of the few pleasures he still has left in life. Don't criticize him for wanting his cigarettes and coffee. Just tell him how much you love him and hug and kiss him a lot. He needs that. Also tell him that you will always be there for him. I told my husband that and it helped him a lot. Your mind plays tricks on you when you are so ill. At one point my husband thought I was going to leave and never come back. I assured him that would never happen and told him how much I loved him and hugged and kissed him a lot.
Keep praying with him. If your husband doesn't want to pray then just hold his hand while you pray with him. God is really all we've ever had in this life and he's all we need. He decides when you are going to die. Doctors as good as they are don't make that decision. Also if your husband does die, he will be up in Heaven with God and Jesus and all the angels and out of his pain and fear; just like my husband was. I hope that doesn't happen with your husband anytime soon. But if it does, you know that you will eventually join your husband in heaven and will be together again. That is what keeps me going day to day. I know sometime in the future I will join my husband up in Heaven when God decides it's my time.
Denise, I wish you and your husband the best and I will keep praying for both of you.
PML