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Caregiving: Anyone else doing this alone?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 4 days ago | Replies (45)Comment receiving replies
I’m not familiar with it. I have contacted my local senior center and checked with SHIIP for all services that might be available. Since we have a home health aid coming in we discovered how resistant to care my dad is. He refuses to allow the aid to assist him with personal hygiene, shaving, etc. He complains the whole time he is here. So, I’m not sure how we’d utilize any additional help inside the home. Maybe, he’d do better in a facility. We have explained that without outside help coming in, he will not be able to stay. He’ll have to go to a nursing home, but either he can’t process it or he doesn’t believe us. It’s true though.
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It's terribly difficult for the family when the family member won't cooperate with a plan of care. I know several such cases. One husband blames his wife for "abandoning" him and putting him in a facility. His behavior was so outrageous she simply couldn't cope. He's been kicked out of three facilities because of his behavior and now, I believe, he's back at home. It's a nightmare. At some point, you have to go forward with the plan that works best for you. Don't let yourself go down with the ship. Find some support, even if it's only (only?) a friend you can talk to.