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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 23 hours ago | Replies (57)Comment receiving replies
Thank you so much @bayviewgal. Exactly right, you really learn who your true friends are in this situation; and the others who turn out to be fair-weather/over-demanding "friends". Since my initial post, fortunately I have also found a great in-home care provider, which has made a huge difference in meeting daily challenges. And a few friends do stop by from time to time to check in, which is great. But I'm more aware than ever of how many old friends and acquaintances absolutely do not want to hear about, think at all about, or confront the problems of dementia or degenerative conditions, or caregiving...maybe it is a kind of widespread fear of denial. Or they other battles in their lives. Well, I can tell that you're a dedicated, selfless caregiver and wish you strength and peace as you care for your husband, and very best wishes for a calm and happy 2025!
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@rxw1853 I am happy to hear you have found an in-home care provider! The first day mine showed up a huge weight was lifted as I was pulling out of the driveway to just be "me" for the afternoon. I've gotten so used to doing what i NEED to do that it was a overwhelming amount of emotions that I got to do what i WANTED to do, that I sat in the driveway with tears rolling from my cheek. it was a HAPPY HAPPY day for me 🙂
What you said about friends being in denial I feel it a very true statement. The husband of my best friend of 25 years told me he didn't know how to react or adjust to my husband's dementia so he would make himself scarce whenever we went to their place. We were mainly their to visit her so it didn't really bother me that he would be busy doing other things But in the past year or so he has really come around and he now makes a point of making contact with Tom and will have as much of a conversation as he can. I had a brother who used to say, "'what we don't know scares us" and so i was chalking it up to that and I was okay with it. And now I have her hubby back in "my life" and and life is good again.
So keep being the selfless caregiver YOU are and after some time the people in your life may just come around as well. We can hope,right?
As always, Strength and Peace to you!