Wow. I spent the better part of this year, trying to navigate a divorce, absorb an infinite number of impacts from the former other human (including one’s that have harmed & killed beloved 4 legged family members, all while trying to differentiate if there is personality disorder, and or less common forms of dementia developing or is well established.. simultaneously going thru DV precipitated legal separation process somewhat blindly (on 2nd atty - former other human has wanted separation but never took the initiative to start it).
Cluster B PDs plus dementia(s) is just a terrible horrible combination. Your post has made me feel a little bit less alone. Still am very uncertain of the path ahead, but it helps to know that others have dealt with the same combo. I wish you all the best and then some.