I find that the template, while simplistic, is often enough to get me going and generic enough to be flexible for whatever I need now.

Journaling has been of tremendous value over the years to me, as it allows me to retrospectively look back and look at what I noted, and ask myself "why?" and do some serious introspection. It was especially helpful when I was dealing with my first wife. It helped me realize that what /I first saw as helpful or caring behaviors were actually enabling her, and I was able to develop some healthier boundaries.