Hang in there. It can be tiresome repeating that it's the same thing bothering you all the time but manifests in different ways.
Sometimes pain is so bad I just shut down and don't engage.
If it's something "important" for family or something of that ilk I try to use thy right combo of meds and braces, but when I move away and disengage, those who know me recognize what's happening.

Something like this can be othering.
Glad you have a place here where people go through similar scenarios.
At least you know it isn't unique to you.