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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jan 18 5:47pm | Replies (112)Comment receiving replies
I’m sorry to hear what you had to go through. What a blessing you were to your wife.you are correct life is not fair. As a Rabbi wrote in his book “When Bad Things Happen to Good People”, there is no one above sprinkling fairness dust on us all, or something to that effect. I always try to keep that in mind. The minister who married us is cared for & lost a wife to brain cancer & talked to us about that. He said being a minister did not protect him or his wife from these things that happen & talked to us about prayer. At the time we felt bad for him but it didn’t really sink in at the time. Thanks again for sharing your story.
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Hello all,
Thank you for sharing your hearts with us all.
I to can totally relate to your heart ache . Right now my husband is talking to a company asking questions about dog food. I have explained to him four times as to why we have chosen Farmers Dog for our jojo. But he forgets, asks unintelligent questions to those who are sometimes kind and often not.
I went into a long depression over this very type of behavior 2021-2024. I was sad, lonely, and angry that he would not let me control our business decisions.
With good counseling I worked on my own issues that were feeding into our problems. Much was healed in my soul, plus learning how to let go of control in unimportant areas. So what if he bothers folks with silly conversation, its ok!
Now when it comes to hiring companies that may be taking us for a ride, i get involved and we argue. So im working on my communication skills!
I thank God that i am healing by finding ways to help others, cry with others, have fun, and be creative. All have helped my state of mind.
I don’t believe we are dealing with Alzheimer’s since his short term memory loss has been for over 15 years now. His cognitive has declined these past 3 years but we are thankful he is still physically self functioning.
Actually ….i believe i am handling our lives better as his memory gets worse because im less confused between “personality or disease?” Anyone else find that to be true?
Hugs to you all!!
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I have a similar situation, though no actual diagnosis besides short term memory loss and definite mood changes. We have been happily married for 55 years, so I really empathize with your feelings of loss, sadness and grief as you realize things are changing. The hardest part for me is not knowing what to expect for the future. I also went to a therapist and that helped me a lot. Sending you my caring thoughts for you.