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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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Thank you for the suggestions. I’m thinking of working with a trainer to try to regain some of my muscle strength. I’ve also considered restarting music lessons. I bought a bass guitar to take up when I retired but my lessons have been off & on due to injuries I’ve sustained. I’ve also thought of taking up flute & piano which I played as a girl but have lost much ground over the years. I’m just not sure I have the stamina to do all three which sounds silly to say. I used to do 2 of the 3 with no problem at all. The stress of the MCI diagnosis has just taken so much out of me. Drained me really. I guess I will see what I am able to do (commit to).
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Take it easy on yourself. You're in a rough spot and you need to pace yourself for the long run. Start slowly with whichever new endeavor appeals to you the most. Then, if you lose interest, try another one. These new ideas are for YOU. If you're going to be there for yourself and your spouse, you have to do what you can to keep your spirit and your body strong.
I am in a somewhat similar situation…the guy who used to fix my computer when it acted up is the one I now have to show how to do things on his phone and iPad. The decisions we used to make together, are now pretty much mine to struggle with, as he gets bogged down in details. We’ve been married 51 years, and I feel not only am I losing my husband, but my best friend. I find playing the piano does help, and he enjoys listening. Maybe picking up your music again will help you both. Best wishes as you travel this scary path.
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Try one of those dreams. I find I don’t have the “bandwidth” to do more than a few things to nurture my own soul.