Good morning nod Happy New Year @tryingtimes10 I know you only asked for women's perspective, but my wife suffered from brain cancer and severe dementia-like symptoms, so I wanted to chime in. We were married for 41 years and she was diagnosed when she was 46.

I was my wife's sole caregiver for over 14 years. I think the most important things that helped me were these:

Her broken brain (disease) made her a different person. I had to accept that and learn to love this new person each day as things, and she changed over and over.

While we wish there were guarantees in life, there are none when it comes to our future. Also, life often feels unfair when it comes to how our lives change as we become caregivers.

My dad was an alcoholic, and I learned to live the mantra of "one day at a time" as a caregiver and to loving my spouse for how she was that day.

I had to learn to give up wishing this wasn't happening and wanting to go back to how things, and she, were in our past. Our clocks can never go backward.

I hope my insights might be of help.

Strength, Courage, & Peace