Val29, I see the pain you are in. I would like to share something with you and I would like to ask a question if you don't mind.
My nephew who is 28 still lives with his parents because his situation is complicated also. He was born with Spina bifida and as a result he is paraplegic. His situation is different because he isn't being emotionally or physically abused. But he is dependent on his parents for nearly everything.

Have you ever had a case manager working with you? In most states there is an agency that can oversees care of adults who are dependent due to either physical or mental difficulties. In my state it is the Division of Aging. It sounds like it would be for seniors but it works with people over the age of 21. A phone call to their toll free number will start the process. My nephew worked with that agency. That agency referred him to other services that also help him to become more self sufficient. What state do you live in? I would look the agency for that State to give that information to you.

Denise