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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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Thank you for your kind words. My decline has been multifactorial but the icing on the cake was certainly my husband’s MCI I’m dealing with. I don’t know that I will ever be the person I was pre-pandemic & my husband’s pre- MCI. Both changed my life tremendously & not for the good. I’m sorry for complaining & it’s not my intent to use this as a woe is me bitch site. I’m interested in knowing how others deal with what feels like a slow loss of the person they were married to.
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@tryingtimes10 You can always use this site as a crying blanket or pity party. Other members will join soon and give you their experiences and helpful tips. Being married 52 years is so momentous that you really do want to share and it’s hard when there’s no one to share with. Just do the best you can.
Do you ever think of moving to assisted living ? You don’t need but he may and it will take some of the burden off you.
@tryingtimes10 I wanted to thank you for this post, which is from over a year ago now. I hope things are easing somewhat for you. Your words spoke to me, as do so many in this group. I feel very thankful that I found this wonderful place to read, learn, vent and just “be” where others understand. My husband also has lost short term memory, and used to be able to fix most anything around the house. Now I either google it and attempt it myself, or call for help. We’ve been married 52 years. The pandemic, the loss of both my younger sisters and my son (brain cancer) has totally changed me. I strive for patience, and most days do pretty well at it. But I’ve lost my best friend, the very person I would have discussed concerns, financial decisions, etc - my husband. I read a lot about MCI and where we may be headed…he currently has no friends, no hobbies, and doesn’t like being alone. I, on the other hand, have always needed a little “me time”. Please know others here care about you and hope you’re feeling a bit better than when you first wrote, New Year’s Eve, in 2024.
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Please feel free to use this as a "woe is me" site if you need to vent some steam. We're all human, and we've all been there.
My husband seems to be in the same general state as yours with MCI. He has few memories of our lives together, is relatively independent but gets lost, can't work his phone, etc. I'm handling it so far by trying to maintain my other relationships while I'm still free to do so. I know that when his dementia worsens I'll be a lot more limited. I intend to care for him at home as long as possible. So, I walk a few miles a day, exercise a bit with weights at home, and do stretching exercises. Endorphins are good. I try to befriend new people so I'm not so lonely and maintain good relationships with family, but we don't have many relatives nearby. Basically, I suggest exercise and friendships...and this site.