I feel you regarding being able to love my husband the way I used to. It's hard to like him anymore, because it's all about him now with no consideration for me, and his personality has completely changed. We no longer have conversations, just his, 'report outs' as I call them.
Regarding our sex life, it's the opposite of your situation: since it is all about him, the loving act is no longer enjoyable for me, and it doesn't happen often, which I'm relieved about since he seems to have forgotten how to make love.
I miss my husband and our marriage.
Virtual hug.