Can you choose an apartment or condo complex with common areas and activities? My friend pondered this decision for 10 years and finally made the move, but needed to be sure there were others nearby to chat with, maybe play a card game or work a puzzle.

I know how you feel. Our decision has not been made yet, but basically it comes down to a choice.

Move near our family where they will help us with needs. We love them very much and they make us happy. We would build on to their home, but be independent. We also have long-term care insurance, which could include help at home or assisted living.

The negatives are cold weather, getting in a car for all of our activities, etc.

Where we are now is warm and all the activities can be gotten to by Bicycle, golf cart or car. All level ground.

Opinions, please. I know there is no magic ball.

And what if you plan to move to live near or with your kids but separately, and they decide they don´t want that much closeness? You cannot predict how things will be in the future. Be very cautious in moving to be near someone because their feelings can change, even after you move.
Been there, done that. One year later I moved back to where I came from.

We are 91 and are snowbirds and in good health. During the summer we live about an hour sea from our daughter. During the winter we are on the Gulf coast, warm and toasty.
We want to be near our kids for emotional support when we have health issues. Our son has come down when needed. Our daughter has family issues but wants us to come nearer to her.
As you may guesss we are grateful for this plethora of blessings. But we are conflicted as to what to do.