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Dealing with generation gap as my spouse and I age
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Dec 31, 2024 | Replies (13)Comment receiving replies
Does your husband have any friends he could socialize with to take some of the pressure off you?
After my stroke, most of my local "friends" forgot they ever knew me, but I am comfortable with online communities (like this one), so that helps me make new connections.
Another possibility is that he is undergoing some depression at facing the end of a long career. Many people don't know how to transition; they feel confused or even useless. (This happens a lot with airline pilots.)
My stroke cost me friendships, my career, my hobbies, my independence, and my mobility -- all at once.
But I found a new "career" -- recovery. One positive outcome of that is the ongoing YouTube channel I created about my recovery journey. Please have a look:
http://www.youtube.com/@srlucado/videos
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You were given a strange gift, Scott: You found out who your real friends are.
Fair winds and following seas, friend.
I understand! My brain bleeds have cost me more than physical stuff. It has cost me so many long term friendships. Cost me even at church. Then I feel like I am constantly in a bad mood because I am lonely and feel useless! Thank you for your comment this morning
Thank you, you seem very resilient, good for you! Best of luck to you.
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Your friends forgot about you? Recently someone else told me this happened to their son. That's awful. Not everyone is like that though. I would go as far to say that anyone who forgets you due to health were never your real friends in the first place.