Hi @loosly, My husband became resistant to showering and he had always been meticulous. He would shower once every five days after I pleaded with him to shower.
He broke his hip and while he was in rehab, I had the tub taken out and a shower bed installed with grab bars and a shower chair. When he came home, I realized it was easier to shower with him than to give him instructions from outside. When we're in the shower, he often asks, "What do I do now?"
I asked him why he didn't want to shower for so long and he said, "I just didn't know what to do."