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You're so right! The person in a facility, even the very best facility, needs an advocate on the ground, especially if he or she is challenged cognitively. One other bit of advice I can offer is that if you can keep the resident looking normal (regular haircuts, clothes that match, etc.) that makes a huge difference in how the staff reacts to him or her. I know families expect the staff to take care of these things, but they are often overwhelmed with duties and may tend to skimp on less urgent things. They'll grab whatever top is handy and easy to put on the patient and whichever pants are relatively clean and nearby. The resident can end up looking worse for wear, but, in truth, if you can make it easier for the staff to keep the resident looking "normal" they'll be treated better by everyone. I know this doesn't seem to make sense, but I've seen it a million times. I've been a hair stylist in a very upscale facility for over 12 years.
Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect @debdown63 . You’ve really given all of us something to think about! I always thought that CCRCs were self-contained and you didn’t need to worry about anything. Guess it’s not so. Is there anything specific that the members can help you with?