I can make a comment about my marriage. Arguing over politics current events etc. I never wanted to do this. Today with tears I realized we and especially me lost a precious commodity. Time. It was hard to stop this as a couple. I wanted couples therapy early on. He refused. I am the one who got help. Do the 2 of you have any shared interests or hobbies? One suggestion I have is trying to start saying thank you to each other. Have you researched the 5 languages of love?