My heart goes out to you. It is a very big decision. I dealt with it for 2 years before having surgery. Have you tried all conservative options such as injections, physical therapy etc.? I did all that including mesenchymal cell & PRP injections. Close to 2 years of physical therapy etc. I did not have any numbness or shooting arm pain. Horrible compression with neck and shoulder pain. Was unable to sleep, retired early, etc. Have you had an MRI? That tells the story of how serious the situation is. My spinal cord signal was normal, however I had signs of spinal cord effacement. The procedure was about an hour longer than expected; the Surgeon explained the bone spurs were extensive and compared it to chards of glass rubbing against the nerves. Fortunately I had no nerve damage. Recovery has been a process. I’m still in physical therapy and see a Rheumatologist for osteoarthritis and degenerative disc disease symptoms. The fusion was successful & I don’t regret it. I’m still dealing with muscle tightness and pain related to the realignment and alteration to my spine. My episode began during the height of the pandemic when medical care was unavailable in my area due to the shutdown. If you’ve tried everything; I would consider meeting with a highly recommended Neurosurgeon and see what your options are. Sorry for the long reply, sending you the best of thoughts