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A spouse can’t see pain, just the same guy who has fixed everything around the house plus cars in the driveway. Chronic pain sucks but Dr. have gate keepers who shoot down low income guys like me long before I can ever get an appointment. During my visits to the Dr who did my spinal cord stimulator, his waiting room was empty! Wait time to go in was quick but leaving the waiting room was still empty. Omaha is larger than St. Louis and my daughter in-law worked the desk at this other clinic with 3 Dr’s doing pain problems. She told me that hours daily passed with nobody for patients & no calls. This city has 5 medical training colleges and covered with Dr’s who do back surgeries or neurologist who do necks down to legs, yet I can’t get in as I am turned down. If I ask how much a pain pump cost, they tell me to call my insurance to ask them. She had no clue as billing is typically done by a 3rd party company in another state. The insurance company is no help as they could only guess! I can’t give as I have too much I want to do… like stand, sleep you know, little things like that!
Happy holidays and merry Christmas! We will be at home with a pizza! No gifts…

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Replies to "A spouse can’t see pain, just the same guy who has fixed everything around the house..."

have you tried getting a social worker to help you?

The shift from spouse to care giver is hard. Often shifts to parent role with loss of intimacy. Good friends will,survive the test on time. Casual friends will,not indure

It is about YOu. True friends will support you. We only socialize in our yard. Open air and full support