I'm sorry your you and your husband are going through this. I don't think there is one good way to respond to a cancer diagnosis. I was diagnosis in July. I just complete 6 cycles of chemotherapy 12/9. I have a rare aggressive cancer with a poor prognosis. Its was really hard to wrap my mind around this. I even questioned the value of chemotherapy. I think what you are doing is perfect. If he doesn't want you to encourage him verbally then maybe you can do things with him that you know brings him joy and just plan love him.

I'll be thinking of you.
Denise