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@denise96

Thank you for your response. I have tried making him milkshakes but he would not drink them. He took a few sips and dumped the rest out. He will drink a Boost occasionally. The pills they gave him for after chemo treatment are just sitting on a shelf. He took one and has not taken another one. This has been since thursday. Yesterday, he said he was nauseated again. I told him that he should take another nausea pill but he refused. They gave him claritin for bone pain that may occur after having the neulasta onpro being injected into his arm. He has taken one so far and said he did not want anymore because they don't work and that is just stupid to think claritin would help with bone pain. The only thing he will eat is processed foods and a few slices of cheese. I made him homemade chicken noodle soup but he would not eat the chicken. Said he did not like the chicken. (It was breast meat) They gave him remeron to possible help him to gain weight. He took a few and said they did not work and he threw them away. If I say anything, he gets mad and says that i don[t know what I am talking about. I refuse to argue with him because I never win. So, if he just wants to waste away, so be it. Anything he would like to eat I would make for him, but it is hard to be a caregiver when nothing pleases him. He won't eat fruit nor vegetables. So prayers at this time is my only hope that he will have a longer time to live and to feel better.

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I wish I could say it is easier to have the cancer than be the one trying to care for and feeling helpless, but we do not get to choose our position in the journey. I can say at times I was most cruel to the ones closest to me. If you have access to a social worker at your treatment center, see if you can get any support both for yourself and him. As in most things, mental health is severely lacking in the American health care system.