Hi. I was diagnosed with MI bladder cancer in June of 2024. I'm a 55 year old female. You’re right. It is scary. In the past six months I've been through 3 mos of chemo and today marks exactly 5 weeks since my bladder removal/neobladder surgery. It's certainly not easy, but you can absolutely do it, too. I would suggest allowing yourself to lean on the people around you. They will help you get through it. All my best to you!!