On a positive note, I do personally know 2 guys who had NS RARP, one 14 years ago and the other about 8 years ago. Both are continent, sexually active, and neither has had the PCa come back. So there are good stories out there, but as you said I suspect most of those guys just move on and put it behind them. I had NS RARP in late June 2024 so it's too early to tell for me. But before surgery my surgeon at Mayo Phoenix said that for my specific case 3+4=7, T2a, 11 of 19 cores containing cancer, I had a 90% chance of being continent at 1 year and 70% of sexual recovery. Frankly, those were better odds than I expected, and at 5 months I am 100% continent and am able to have intercourse with my wife (albeit much less good than before but slowly improving). After surgery at the 3 month visit the Mayo urologist said based on my clean margins, no extension, no gland involvement, I had about a 95% chance of being cancer free at 5 years. The following Sloan Memorial data base gives me a 91% chance of being cancer free at 5 years and 82% chance at 10 years. So I think there are positive stories out there, but as you said I think they don't tend to frequent this blog. Here's the link to the Sloan Memorial database:
https://www.mskcc.org/nomograms/prostate/post_op
BTW, this is just the data I happen to be familiar with. I'm not suggesting that RARP is the "best" treatment or that's it's what you should do. I have no idea what's the best treatment for you. Rather, I just wanted to share some positive data with you to respond to your post. As an aside, I don't know but I believe the quality of care (ie. going to a cancer center of excellence if possible) is more important to one's outcome rather the specific treatment selected. I'm not a medical professional but that's my 2 bit opinion.