I'm so sorry you're in this position. I'm glad you are there to support your mom though. My 5 siblings and I did that for our mom, twenty years ago and it was the best decision we could have made.

I'm now going it alone with my husband not wanting in home caregivers and resisting a move. It's so hard to navigate at this point. I kind of wish the disease would progress further to force me to make a move but, for now, I stick with the status quo.

You're right, those who haven't been here don't get it. Moving him seems logical to outsiders but they don't realize the complications and emotions involved.

Sending virtual hugs to all who struggle with this.