Hi M...I don't think you're a Debbie Downer. You're a realist. You're honest. While it's easier for those who love us if we maintain a positive attitude (Monty Python: "Always look on the bright side of life" -- but we know what the next verse is LOL!!!). And, for sure, it's healthier for us, too. But I think we've got to give our anger, frustration, sadness, and confusion some room, too. No, not dwell. But definitely acknowledge and, as they say, embrace. Journaling it out can help. It does for me. Screaming into or beating up a pillow. Making myself cry to a trigger sad song. Watching a horror film like "Carrie" where I get my vicarious revenge on the world. Sick humor is good. If you find outlets for these feelings -- too often labeled negative -- I believe they lose some of their punch and you can more easily deal...it's keeping them in that makes it worse. Just my opinion. Sending hugs on a Saturday. (Oh, and yeah, the holiday season, with its forced, prolonged jollity is the worst. Factor that in! ; )