It seems that when people need a lot of assistance, they lose the ability to realize the enormity of it. When someone who has many needs, lacks mobility and requires around the clock care asks a family member to keep them in their home, they lack insight into the situation. Have they ever cared for someone in that situation before? After what I have been though, I would never ask that of a friend or family member. Unless, they can afford outside care to come in 24/7, it’s just not feasible, imo. I would welcome placement, because I wouldn’t want to put that much work and stress on my loved one.

So, hone health care finally came last week and my dad refused to accept it. He was polite at first, but then went to his room and locked the door, refusing to let me and the health care aid inside. We explained that if he refuses, he will be placed in a facility and will have around the clock assistance. But, since he has lost good judgment, he’ll probably not change on this. So, I expect placement very soon. My mom and I told him his care needs are too great….we can’t do it alone….but he doesn’t care. Dementia causes lack of empathy and insight. Resistance to care is difficult to deal with. Plus, he’s never been a caregiver. Unless, you’ve been there, it’s difficult to explain.