I'm glad she changed your mind too, sir. Good luck.

Just a personal comment about the Whipple: after surgery, you expect to get better every day, whereas with chemo it can be worse for a while. Eating can be difficult; have some soups, easily digested food prepared. Don't drink--I quit after years of a daily (almost) wine, etc. Watch out for constipation and diarrhea--don't let it get out of control. Hope you have a senior (high) toilet; I stayed at my daughter's home for a week and she got one of those seats you put on top of the existing one--a great help. Walk, have visitors at home (not so much in the hospital as they are always sending in physical, occupational, nutritional therapists). Watch a humorous sit com on your computer in bed if you wake up at night; I loved "Waiting for God" (a sophisticated serial about a retirement living home) on BritBox through Amazon. In fact, watch all the funny TV you can. My husband and I watched Bob Newhart reruns before bedtime.
One of my proud moments in my 8 day hospital stay (I was 83 then) was getting my "gray hospital socks" ( as opposed to the yellow ones) that indicated I could walk the halls without help. So now I'm almost 85, still walking and feeling great--had radiation on one metastasis as I did not continue the chemo in favor of feeling good on a daily basis for the rest of my life. Expect to get better after that Whipple! Carrie