Hi, Chris (@smugzs).

I have a teen son diagnosed with adhd and his dad has adhd and believe undiagnosed ASD. I’m also a childhood trauma survivor and have ptsd. My experience of triangulation with therapists as a child and my mother is similar and I have been blamed by family to have been all of the problem. A very sick and twisted abuse/neglect cycle that has affected my entire life. I am female and 55.

You are not alone in having trust issues and finding good therapists. I agree with @windyshores that it would be good to have a list of questions you ask up front before committing. It is so frustrating to unpack your life experience with someone only to have to start all over again with a new therapist. There are some therapists who have ptsd, adhd and asd and may be better able to relate with patients who also have similar life experience.

Don’t give up advocating for yourself and getting the help and support you need.

1 https://chadd.org/about-adhd/professionals-who-diagnose-and-treat-adhd/ and https://chadd.org/professional-directory/

2 https://www.specialstrong.com/the-best-therapy-for-adhd-and-autism-a-comprehensive-guide/