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How much do you share with grandkids or your children?

Posted by Rubyslippers @triciaot, Nov 4 7:24am

When I was diagnosed my granddaughter was 3 so no issue of discussions. She is now a very inquisitive 5 1/2 year old. I have shared with her that I had an MRI and infusion . . . because she had to have a MRI earlier this year and is on her 6th IVIG infusion (5 hr long).
She wanted to know why I was quarantining during recent Halloween and didn’t trick or treat with her and her little brother (they are sick often with daycare and school viruses/colds). She was satisfied with the answer that I’m going to the hospital and they’ll send me home if I’m sick. To her, the hospital is where you go for infusions and scans so no real concern about more intensive procedures (I have surgery tomorrow).
But I know she will ask more questions. How much is too much?
I don’t mind sharing about my condition- most everyone I know are aware. But I don’t want to scare her. I’m okay with giving a non-answer to her questions . . . but then don’t want her to later think I lied.
What to do?

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Denise | @denisestlouie | Nov 22 2:28pm
In reply to @linda1974 "I to have only shared with my daughters families and my close circle of 8 friends..." + (show)
@linda1974

I to have only shared with my daughters families and my close circle of 8 friends (with understanding they don't share). I also don't want to talk about it. But my grandson started a Snapchat group so I put everything out there. For people to see. Then I'm not telling and retelling everything that happens.

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To me this seemed the most reasonable way to deal with cancer. Its no ones business, right?

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linda1974 | @linda1974 | Nov 22 4:54pm
In reply to @denisestlouie "To me this seemed the most reasonable way to deal with cancer. Its no ones business,..." + (show)
@denisestlouie

To me this seemed the most reasonable way to deal with cancer. Its no ones business, right?

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💯 agree

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teresalyons1994 | @teresalyons1994 | Nov 26 10:37pm

It sounds like at her age, ur already telling her what she understands. I have 3 grandkids and they didn't know much about ethg I went thru, However their mom was trying to keep them away from my son. So it tk a fight for him, and now I've already bn thru the diag, trtmnts, etc.. they at 1st didn't know I'd be ok as long as cancer didn't come bk. Also I had to explain to them they cldn't catch cancer. Idk what their mom told them? However they understand berrwr

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teresalyons1994 | @teresalyons1994 | Nov 26 10:43pm
In reply to @teresalyons1994 "It sounds like at her age, ur already telling her what she understands. I have 3..." + (show)
@teresalyons1994

It sounds like at her age, ur already telling her what she understands. I have 3 grandkids and they didn't know much about ethg I went thru, However their mom was trying to keep them away from my son. So it tk a fight for him, and now I've already bn thru the diag, trtmnts, etc.. they at 1st didn't know I'd be ok as long as cancer didn't come bk. Also I had to explain to them they cldn't catch cancer. Idk what their mom told them? However they understand berrwr

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Sorry hit wrong keys, they understand better now. They are 8,11, and 12. I think ur doing well w/explaining to ur gdghtr at her age. Just never lie, kids nd to be protected, but not by lies, and you wldn't want her to think she shld keep thgs from u. I really think U got this, sounds to me ur doing ethg right! God bless you ❤️

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