@frandy, I'm so sorry you must go through this experience. As if a lung cancer diagnosis isn't hard enough as it is! Please know that there are better oncologists out there, including those who understand they are treating people, not just the disease.

I'm a 6-year survivor of the EGFR mutation, the last 4 years at stage 4. I moved across the country before my second round of cancer, and I'll tell you what my first oncologist told me when I was looking for one in a new town, "Your primary doctor and your oncologist need to be your friends. You need to trust them. On the other hand, you only need to care if your specialist is good at what they do because you will probably never see them again." If that's not your relationship with your oncologist, change doctors. While I agree this can be a pain in the you-know-where, people are surviving lung cancer longer than ever before, which means this could be a long-term relationship for you.

It sounds like you are asking the right questions and asking for the correct information. Those are reasonable requests for someone in your position. There's no need to get upset with a doctor who is solely focused on his own agenda. Just move on. I sincerely wish you all the best. New treatments for small cell LC have been approved just this year, so you have every reason to hope for the best!