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How much do you share with grandkids or your children?
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I've kept my diagnosis close to the vest. I have personally only told my immediate family and a handful of very close friends. I didn't even tell my business partners. I don't want to be thought of as that person with cancer and I don't want to talk about it either. I was diagnosed in July 2024 I've had 5 chemotherapy treatments and my head is as bald as a bowling ball, but I conceal that with wigs.
I have 2 grandkids 5 and 1. They live 5 hours away. I've seen them 3 times since July. Our visits are about bonding. Last time I was at their house my granddaughter who is 5 opened the car door as her dad was pulling into the driveway screaming my grandma name and tried to jump out to see me. That's the relationship I dreamed about. (Not the jumping out of moving cars, but excitement to see me.)
Obviously it might be different if we lived closer.
I'm hoping the treatments will kill cancer and this will be it. I don't have to make decisions about what I'll do if there's a recurrence at this time.
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I to have only shared with my daughters families and my close circle of 8 friends (with understanding they don't share). I also don't want to talk about it. But my grandson started a Snapchat group so I put everything out there. For people to see. Then I'm not telling and retelling everything that happens.
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I love your description of your granddaughter greeting you. I always wondered what my grandma name would be--turns out it is just grandma, or sometimes Miriam, which of course most people call me! My granddaughter lives 20 minutes away so see her often. We have a little garden path and the first time she walked it alone she said it was "big kid drop off"--what a thrill. You seem to know and understand yourself, and who you want to share with and when you need privacy. It can take a lifetime to figure that out--thank you for sharing here.