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Bladder Cancer Group: Introduce yourself and connect with others

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@backroadsbarbie

Hi
I’m here for support. My husband has the noninvasive high grade bladder cancer. He’s 53. We were totally blindsided by this diagnosis. Been dealing a little over a year with this. It’s totally changed and disrupted our lives. He’s had 5 surgeries, 6 BCG and a chemo after a surgery in September. It’s not slowing down. I’m stuck in an anger/grieving stage. It doesn’t help that I’m an RN and never get a break from sick or ailing people with various complaints all day. Any advice for him or me is welcome. I feel like I am losing control over this and have already lost my big strong husband as this has changed him so much. Prayers to all. Thank
You.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | 4 days ago

@backroadsbarbie, you and your husband have a tough row to hoe! I'm sure bladder caner wasn't in your plans and I can understand the overwhelming emotions of anger, grief and resentment. It's NOT fair.

Have you thought of reaching out to an oncology social worker? Here's more information:
– How an Oncology Social Worker Can Help https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/cancer-education-center/newsfeed-post/how-an-oncology-social-worker-can-help/

You don't have to deal with this on your own. You're an RN and you support sick people and you're used to being in control. But now it's your turn to get support. Talking to someone can help reframe hope and discover the things you can take charge of.

I bet your husband is grieving too. He still wants to be your big strong husband, your protector and provider. Have you said some of those things out loud together?

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