Has anyone been able to have surgery for tumor in the tail?

Great advice Maryanne if the time and energy can be afforded! I used to tell my son to volunteer when he was a teenager and feeling blue; and it resulted in helping his mood and his college application!. I volunteered as a board member for the Bolsa Chica Land Trust during my first round of chemo with 5FU in 2023. I started losing my hair with my 2nd round of chemo, abraxane, early this year and I quit recently for reasons not related to cancer. Maybe there’s a light volunteer task in the church you belong to which wouldn’t require much commitment or energy like serving donuts after service on Sundays (our church does this) or even helping out with just buying a box of donuts to donate. I always told my children that helping others takes the focus off ourselves I think we are too focused on ourselves, sometimes.

Yes, I do continue to watch French movies with subtitles and I find it a good way to help me keep practicing my French a tiny bit. The daughter of my BFF (she passed in 2022 of gall bladder cancer) lives in the south of France and has invited me many times, but alas I hate to fly. It was on my bucket list to work with a therapist over my fear of flying so that I could visit some of my friends in other states and countries; however it is the last thing on my bucket list!! That’s a beautiful phrase though - the joy of life.
You are a great guiding light for your husband! I really admire you for that and I completely understand where you are coming from. Just a few weeks ago drs thought my husband might have lung cancer, but it’s some lung disease (he’s currently in the hospital) that drs are still trying to figure out. He’s a bit on the negative side and doesn’t converse with his family much and he says he doesn’t want to worry them, however I converse daily through text with his brother - a retired dr to make sure they know what’s going on with him and as a double check on the treatment he’s getting. But yes, I can understand when a spouse needs our up lifting and I’m so glad you are on this forum. It provides a discourse for helping others as well as being able to learn from others.
It sounds like he’s headed in the right direction. The GA chemo works very well on liver lesions and I imagine on tumors as well. The smaller one (1 cm) disappeared and the larger one (about 1.5 or 1.7 cm) shrunk to 0.9 cm and I recently had that radiated with MRIdean, so I’m hoping I decimated it; I’ll find out by next appointment in early December. These don’t light up on my PET scan. Yes, the info we get between drs, surgeons, or radiologists can be conflicting. Just be aware you can always seek out the opinion of another oncologist as just a consultation visit without having to change your actual oncologist, if desired. So glad your husband is improving and I wish you both well on this journey!

Thank you very much. You sound like you have a whole lot on your plate and I thank you for finding the time to reply and encourage. I go to bed at night overwhelmed with fear and wake up the same - fear of losing my husband whom I have known since I was 15 (decades ago!). You should work on your fear of flying, if you can. I still fear flying but breathing exercises and some meds help. Flying lets me travel and see places.