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Dad is dying & no reason why:Tests not "alarming"

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@lanaeg

Thank you. We contacted the pastor of our 'old' church and he came in. My dad passed away today with my mom, myself, siblings and all the grandkids and great-grandkids by his side. I've never experienced such a nightmare and wouldn't wish his situation on anyone. I have to believe he was "gone" when his heart stopped bc to think he could maybe even hear us while being the way he was is unbearable. To make it all worse, as though it could be, of course, his heart was healthy, lungs cleared up, can't find a reason so they're just going with his heart got "out of rhythm". All the doctor seemed stunned and concerned that common sense said he was a sick man, but every doctor before this stay would just always say, "medically, he's healthy," I wish I had gotten the MAYO forms earlier and if his doctor would have done it instead of giving us the advice of just "driving up", maybe the outcome could have been different. I'm just sick.

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Laurie, Volunteer Mentor | @roch | Nov 20 9:23am

@lanaeg

I want to express my sympathy over the loss of your dad. I am sure the last few days have been very emotional and physically exhausting. The only advice I can give you at this time is allow yourself time to grief.

From my experience when my dad passed and the ten years later my mom died, both rather suddenly, is that everyone deals with death and grief differently. Some of my siblings showed their emotions openly, others kept it inside. After my dad died, my first priority was taking care of mom, or more precisely, making sure she took care of herself.

If you're not familiar with the stages of grief, this article from Harvard Publishing is great reference. Like I said earlier, every handles grief differently and not in same sequence.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/5-stages-of-grief-coping-with-the-loss-of-a-loved-one
My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

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