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why do i want friends but dont want to spend time with them.
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@ray666
Oh, Ray...I am so sorry that you have lost a friend but it sounds like you didn't lose a friendship. My guess is that he sensed your regret and that is why he responded to your letter and it blossomed into regular phone calls. He was happy to know you did care. You just needed to grow up a bit! He clearly forgave you. That was his parting gift to you.
Now comes the hard work - forgiving yourself. I think if this were happening to another friend of yours, you would be encouraging them to do the same, and wanting them to let go of the guilt and the burden of a long-past mistake.
As a friend who knows you - even from afar -well enough to know you treat us strangers with kindness and dignity, I'm asking you to let go of that burden and treat yourself with mercy.
I'll toast to that: Cheers!
Barb
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Sage advice, Barb. And I've largely forgiven myself; after all these years, my memory of how I had behaved all those many years ago is today merely a light fog that now and then rolls in from the faraway past. The few months we had together, letters and phone calls only last winter, have enabled me to remember Thomas as a friend. As a response to this forum topic, his memory makes me more than ever wish never to discount the friendships I have while I still have them. Here's wishing you a friendship-rich week, Barb. Cheers! –Ray