kb, it’s very interesting that you asked me this, I also had some doubts about whether the doctor saw my name and perhaps contacted my brother..perhaps they collaborated about how to handle this situation, another thought I had was that the doctor could say that he told me ahead of time about his association with my family. I argued this idea away because he had prior knowledge about me and my name and who would be comfortable opening up wounds with a person who is socially connected to my family…it takes a lot of courage to be able to challenge the fears I carried around for so long and open up to a friend of the abuser, I admit that I have emotional problems but I still have my common sense and support to not make such a disastrous decision, thank God, amen.