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why do i want friends but dont want to spend time with them.
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What you say about affinity groups is so true; at least, it has been true in my life. I, too, was in the military, and how you describe military social life echoes my experience: ours were instant, largely stress-free social gatherings (I'm speaking of stateside, naturally). True, too, in my professional life in the theater, we would group ourselves socially after performances––actors, technicians, house staff––usually at the nearest pub, and enjoy glorious post-show chatter. Once again, I never found these get-togethers to be pressurized, not in the least. And such occasions––military, theater––would often involve a dozen or more people. I suspect these get-togethers brought together people with something sharply defined in common––unlike rooms full of wandering strangers, one or two would soon approach and ask, 'So what do you do for a living?' That's WHen I'd want to flee into a corner and page through an old National Geographic. 🙂
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It was difficult to connect with civilians while in the military.
That may be part of my issue with socializing. When your mate is in the military, the significant other and children are also enlisted. We move ever 2 to 4 years. Leave your friends behind with the hope you will be stationed at the same base once again. Also, the children end up changing schools with every move. You have to be strong. in order to adapt to the constant changers. We were stationed in the Philippines. (Sangly Point) that did not have a hospital, just a dispensary. If your pregnancy was uncomplicated, you gave birth in a room designated for that circumstance, in other words, a bed. You brought your own diapers and formula if you weren't going to breastfeed. I could go on forever about our adventures but. I promise I will say no more, except for one more thing. If you had special circumstances where you may need something different from others to accommodate your wife for example and the command did not have it readily available, you did not complain because you would be met with these famous words, "the military did not issue you a wife." Civilians just don't understand the rigors that we all went through, thereby difficult to connect. No matter, I will persevere in my effort to join the rest of the human race.