I am very sorry for both you and your husband. I wish I had something to offer but since I have not been in that position, I can't.
However, I just wanted to say thank you for bringing this up. It helps me appreciate that with all I went through, which was not as bad as I did not have to do that procedure, but I had a catheter for about 10 months and now since then I still can't even do anything because I am on a testosterone blocker still, so now about 1 year and 9 months since I have been able to 'function'.
The reason I say I appreciate it is I thankfully did/do not have a significant other. I would have hated to see what would have possibly happened if I would have had to put a significant other for over 2 years as I was having issues almost 8 months before I was diagnosed with Stage IV Prostate (metastatic to bone, spleen and lymph nodes) cancer which I go into the Mayo Monday, November 19th to hopefully hear I have conquered it. I feel like I possibly could have.
Not trying to hijack your post but I just wanted to thank you for helping me realize how lucky I am.
I am ultra sorry your husband and you have to go through this experience and I just hope, and will also pray, that your husband can fully recover and you two can experience a relationship way better than you ever dreamed or imagined possible!
Tom