Hey Chamblee, That was such a great post! You really distilled all the emotions and turmoil men face when they no longer see the ‘ME’ they always knew.
Men suffer as much shame and feelings of inadequacy sexually - perhaps more- than breast cancer patients. Not trying to minimize their anguish but breast reconstruction has really come a long way - and you DON’T need a breast(s) to perform sexually.
This disease robs the majority of men of their ability to achieve penetration; pills and injections MAY help some, but others like me who are totally impotent have to think about implants, pumps and inserts to even come close!
Lucky for me I am married for almost 40 years to a wonderful woman who really understands my literal shortcomings. She’s not happy for either of us but even though our sex lives are non-existent (ADT as well) our love is even stronger than before. I never believed it when someone said that (yeah, right…) but I’ve found it to be true. Best to you!
Phil