@billa1962 My very good friend grew up in a family just like yours.
His life as a child is one horror story after another. The sad thing is he had no idea that what he experienced wasn’t “normal” until he joined the military. There he heard the stories of others whose father took them fishing, and mothers who baked cookies etc. That’s when he became very angry. He turned to alcohol and wild actions. He has had 5 wives.
Now, he is in his mid-70s and via the Alcoholics Anonymous program has not had a drink for 34 years.

He has forgiven his parents, and is very willing to help others anyway he can.

Now, he has been diagnosed with Dementia…