The dynamics you describe in your family are / were similar to mine. My mother was the enabler and tried to keep the peace in the family. Also she was a codependent. My father has enough narcisstic traits to be harmful. He can be controlling and authoritative. In my family I was the scapegoat my brother the golden child. I had medical issues early in life- bladder and was stuttering by age 3. I live 1900 miles away from my father and brother. The golden child is now responsible.