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Sex After Surgery: What can I expect?

Posted by bdc1677 @bdc1677, Aug 14 8:04pm

For those who have had their prostate removed and able to get an erection... how has sex changed? I am schedule for surgery October 3rd. I am 57... so a little freaked out.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Nov 3 10:18am

@bdc1677, I augmented the title of this discussion to help others who will be having surgery to find the helpful tips members shared with you. And to post your follow-up discussion:
- Dry Orgasm after surgery: Does it get better with time? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/dry-orgasm-1/

@bdc1677, now that you are post surgery, what tip would you share to members awaiting surgery? What do you wish you had known?

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bdc1677 | @bdc1677 | Nov 3 2:07pm
In reply to @colleenyoung "@bdc1677, I augmented the title of this discussion to help others who will be having surgery..." + (show)
@colleenyoung

@bdc1677, I augmented the title of this discussion to help others who will be having surgery to find the helpful tips members shared with you. And to post your follow-up discussion:
- Dry Orgasm after surgery: Does it get better with time? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/dry-orgasm-1/

@bdc1677, now that you are post surgery, what tip would you share to members awaiting surgery? What do you wish you had known?

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Well, the surgery itself wasn't bad. No incision pain. The catheter was by far the worst part of the entire surgery and recovery. I did my research before the surgery... so I knew all the potential struggles. But, when I read about incontinence, I assumed it was going to be a lot of urine. For me, so far it has been minor, teaspoon to tablespoon of urine when it happens. And it has only happened 5 or 6 times in four weeks.

I was very worried about erections and dry orgasm. Erections have been better than expected. But it takes some work. Again, from everything I have read this improves over time. I am still hopeful that is the case.

Its been really hit and miss with the dry orgasm. First one was terrible. Next one better. Third wasnt that great. Sort of been the pattern. Again, hopefully something that improves over time.

When I first met with the surgeon... they focused on helping me deal with the side effects. But I havent from them since the surgery.

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heavyphil | @heavyphil | Nov 4 12:22pm
In reply to @bdc1677 "Well, the surgery itself wasn't bad. No incision pain. The catheter was by far the worst..." + (show)
@bdc1677

Well, the surgery itself wasn't bad. No incision pain. The catheter was by far the worst part of the entire surgery and recovery. I did my research before the surgery... so I knew all the potential struggles. But, when I read about incontinence, I assumed it was going to be a lot of urine. For me, so far it has been minor, teaspoon to tablespoon of urine when it happens. And it has only happened 5 or 6 times in four weeks.

I was very worried about erections and dry orgasm. Erections have been better than expected. But it takes some work. Again, from everything I have read this improves over time. I am still hopeful that is the case.

Its been really hit and miss with the dry orgasm. First one was terrible. Next one better. Third wasnt that great. Sort of been the pattern. Again, hopefully something that improves over time.

When I first met with the surgeon... they focused on helping me deal with the side effects. But I havent from them since the surgery.

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I am pretty sure dry orgasms will be the norm for you. Prostate and seminal vesicle removal take away all the fluids necessary to carry the sperm from the testicles.
It’s not a big deal - unless you are a porn star 😂
I will say, however, that your orgasms may even be more intense than before - more of a whole body experience.

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