@miasmama23 First, welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! I'm glad you have reached out to us. It's a scary place to be, definitely, when you feel there are answers out there to your questions. But you don't have a clue what to ask. Does this sound familiar to you?

Shame on your doctor for telling you that you have chronic kidney disease, then not doing anything about it! I'm glad you are concerned enough to start getting a handle on everything. If you don't feel comfortable with your primary care, then you might want consider changing to a new provider.

I am not a medical doctor, nor can I or should I give you medical advice. If I was in your position, the first thing I would do is get a complete physical exam, including bloodwork. There is a value called eGFR [estimated glomerular filtration rate] that will give you an indication of how well your kidneys are working right now. The leading causes of kidney disease are diabetes and high blood pressure. Beyond that, kidney issues can also be caused by medication interactions, lifestyle, and genetic factors. Getting a handle on underlying issues is very helpful. Getting a referral to a nephrologist [kidney specialist] will be helpful to understand your unique situation and case. You say you are morbidly obese. Has there been a cause for this discussed with you? Perhaps a referral to en endocrinologist is in order?

One of the most informational websites to go to for facts is the National Kidney Foundation: https://www.kidney.org/
Also, Renal Support Network: rsnhope.org

As to your dad's recent diagnosis: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/kidney-cancer/
Please let me know how I can further help you?
Ginger