Thank you for your helpful reply. Please know that we are not the only ones. My cousin has three sons, all married. The middle son and his wife (of course) turned against her. No contact. I did try. Sent a long email in which I accepted blame for anything that I might have done and was not aware of. I acknowledged that this might have happened and apologized. Nothing. That is when I changed my trust. This son was the trustee who would have closed out and distributed after my death. No longer. I did my research and found a fiduciary trustee. We had a meeting and I liked her. When I worked I worked for a probate and trust attorney for 23 years before I retired. Of course she is my attorney now. She is very family oriented and was sad to see what I was doing but I explained the situation and she agreed to do the necessary paperwork. While I am not thrilled with this situation with my son, I feel better that I have done what makes me easier in my mind. My sons are older than your son and I am older than dirt. I turned 90 last month. I am in fairly good health and am independent. I have no dementia and can make my own decisions, which I am doing and have done. I have accepted the fact that it is quite likely that I will never see him or speak to him again. Not a good feeling but it is what it is. Fortunately for me I still have a good relationship with older son. In case you are wondering why he is not the trustee, it is because he lives in Asia, so it is not geographically possible. We have discussed this and he is fine with it. At my age you can go anytime. I make no plans, just live one day at a time.