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No Longer a Caretaker. What am I?

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 2 days ago | Replies (31)

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Billiekip I have been following you on this path for quite some times with love and admiration for your strength, commitment, love, and desire to do the best you can for the man you love dearly! You are as close to superwoman as I have seen and there is no guilt to ever be played on superwoman’s shoulders! You need a break just as the home suggested so your husband can grow into the comfort of his new surroundings and you need a little vacation to rest, breathe, and regroup. I have often thought ahead of myself about what we will do when living together is no longer right and that fear is real but at 80, your job is not done - it is just changing and I know you are strong enough to evolve to the change. I am praying for you. As trite as getting a pet may seem for company, even a fish which takes very little care may bring ng you a living focus during this transition and give your self time to rest and live another day❤️

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Thank you so much for your kind words. I've had dogs and cats in the past, and no, I don't want to take care of them now. I'm flat out of nurture. 17 years of teaching elementary school and then caring for my husband has depleted my cache for now. I do have a house plant named Roxy. I am evolving as a life partner but also as a person. I so appreciate you and all of the people who take the time to share on this site. It has been so helpful and uplifting to me when I've felt depleted. I've reached acceptance of the situation and have no doubts about moving my husband into professional care. Now, I am working on my own health and finding small treats and surprises to bring to my husband to brighten his day. People can do hard things.