I am 71 years old and had a RP at age 69. Was recommended the following book by my urologist: Life After Prostatectomy by Vanita Gaglani RPT. It's available on Amazon. It is a very detailed book to give you a 10 week step-by-step guide in how to become continent again. There is no guarantee that any of us will achieve total continence but it can be improved. It helped me.

She explains the reasons for incontinence and how to overcome each of them. Doing proper Kegels is only a small part of the process. The pelvic floor muscles strengthened with Kegel's are only a part of the body core and all need to be strengthen in unison. She also talks about diet and its role in maintaining continence. Some fluids and foods are irritating to the bladder and promote incontinence.

One aspect of gaining continence surprised me. She talks about getting enough water intake per day-more than most people think, It's counterintuitive to think that actually taking in more water promotes less leakage. Most people try to limit fluid intake to avoid leakage. But concentrated urine causes bladder irritability and increases leakage. Also, by increasing fluid intake you are training your bladder to have a larger capacity so you don't feel to urge to go as often.

There are many other pearls and discussions. It is comprehensive. What have you got to lose? It helped me.