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Not OK — and that's OK

Cancer | Last Active: Oct 21 3:34pm | Replies (23)
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@vinnie694

Thank you so much for your post, I will be attending my good friends , wife memorial service on Thursday. She was diagnosed with cancer about 6-8 months after me. At that time, she was put on palliative care right away and didn’t tell anyone . We continued to go out together and never let on that she was that sick.. So much of what you said, and others on this thread I can relate to. I find the things that get to me the most are when we make plans to do something way in advance ( like a year away) my thoughts are always, will I be here? Best wishes and hope for all to have more ok days than not ok days..

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northoftheborder | @northoftheborder | Oct 20 6:18am

Thank you for your post. I experienced very much the same thing during the first year after my stage-4 cancer diagnosis: every time I heard or thought about something in the near future, like the completion of a transit line, an upcoming election, or a young relative's university graduation, I'd think about how I might not be around for that, and it would take me to a bad place.

Now, after 3 years, with my treatments still working to hold my cancer in remission, I dare to hope again for a long future, and at the same time, am more at peace with the chance that I won't have one.

I still have emotional "Not OK" days sometimes, but they're the exception rather than the norm now, and I'm grateful for that.

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