Hello @arffman1 and welcome to Mayo Connect. I can certainly understand how you would feel overwhelmed with a Stage IV diagnosis. I would encourage you to read some of the other posts by members who have the same diagnosis such as @stageivsurvivor. Here is information about his journey with a Stage IV diagnosis with pancreatic cancer,
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/newsfeed-post/clinical-researcher-turns-patient-advocate-meet-stageivsurvivor/
--Also, the Spotlight of @markymarkfl
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/newsfeed-post/facing-it-with-connect-meetmarkymarkfl/
When did your wife's chemo treatments begin?