Looking at my post again, there is one other thing I'd add. For me, it also helped when I didn't have to worry about it. For example, I still have an absorbent pad under the bed sheet. I've never had an accident sleeping, but it just gives me that little bit of extra assurance so I can not worry about it. Similarly, early on when I was still kind of worrying about having an accident I realized things went better if I was out hiking or in some similar venue where it didn't matter if I had a little accident. I could forget about it. I'm retired, but if I was still working I'd probably have worn depends when I went back, or at least a liner for a while so I didn't have to worry about accidents. Plus if I was still working I'd definitely wear dark pants for a while. There's nothing wrong with using a few aids to take off some of the stress while while you give yourself some time. Early on the urge would come on quickly. After almost 4 months, I really feel like I'm pretty much back to normal. So a little extra insurance (depends or liner) might help your confidence while you're getting back to normal. All part of just being able to relax and forget about it. Just my 2 cents.